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The Hidden Power of the Smile

May 1, 2012

Smiling directly influences how others respond to you. The human brain prefers happy faces; it recognizes them faster than faces with negative expressions. In fact, research shows that if you smile at someone, it activates the “reward center” in that person’s brain.

It is also a natural response for the other person to smile back at you.


It seems that smiling is one of the most basic universal biological factors within the human condition which has a measurable effect on our overall well-being. It is probably one we acquired through evolution in order to get along with others.


Julia Roberts –  The Oscar winner is still one of the highest-paid actresses in the biz. All she has to do is keep her larger-than-life “accessory” with her and she is surely to stay on top of her game.

A natural smile (which involves muscles around the eyes, unlike a fake smile) produces physiological feedback that makes the person smiling feel happier. Someone watching another person smile will involuntarily mirror the smile.

Even on the phone, when you “hear” someone smiling back at you, it makes you feel happier. Thus a feedback loop kicks in as the body produces neurochemicals correlated with happy feelings.


 For example, research published in the journal Political Psychology used automated face-recognition technology to create a “smile index” for politic candidates’ faces. The study found that a greater “smile index” correlated to a greater vote share for Australian candidates in the 2000 and 2004 elections, smiling increased vote share by 5.2 percentage points in Australia.

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The Eyes Can Tell You A Lot

March 3, 2012

People are much more of an open book than they are aware of. Body language can tell a great deal about what is going on inside ones thoughts. One of the most easily observed, yet widely unnoticed aspects of body language is eye movement. Our eye movements are often a reflection of what type of mental processes we are engaged in.

The following illustration depicts the major types of eye movements and their significance.

If you are chatting with someone and they keep looking to their right, laterally or upward, they are likely engaged in imagination or fabrication.

If they look to their left, laterally or upward, they are likely engaged in recall of an actual experience from their memory.

Looking downward generally signifies internal dialog. Eyes down and left signifies internal auditory dialog.

Eyes down and to the right signifies internal kinesthetic dialog.

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Why cards?

It’s the easiest way to discover what others really think and feel!

The information in this field is organized mostly in books, which is amazing taking into consideration the fact that it’s a visual mode of communication, and the crucial thing is to have the visual memory of the movement in mind when one encounters the relevant gesture.

Cards send a signal to our brain that it’s a game and not another bulk of information that we have to learn. People like to play and thus the information is more effectively consolidated.

By flash cards much of the information is integrated in additional brain areas, those involved in habits acquisition.

It’s also a very easy way to practice and repeat the information which is more complicated with other means.

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Job Interview – Success or Sabotage?

January 21, 2012

Did you know the human body can produce over 700,000 unique movements? These movements have been partitioned into approximately 60 discrete and symbolic signals and around 60 gestures, postures, and expressions.

A great amount of the job interview is conveyed by non-verbal means. You did all the homework for your interview, you know everything about the company, their vision, management style, what skills you have that would benefit the company, where you expect your career to be in 10 years and you know all the correct answers to 249 interview questions, but at the end of the day what really counts is the main question: did you have good chemistry? Can they trust your message, and what can you do in order to make sure that they will?

We polish our verbal skills for an interview, but only few of us give much attention to our non-verbal communication and body language skills to support the verbal messages we deliver and could make the difference.

Tips for the interviewees

When entering the interview people tend to create an imaginary barrier to protect themselves, like holding a bag or a piece of paper. To the interviewer this means insecurity.

Avoid making the upper hand handshake. This may indicate a need to dominate. Make sure to maintain eye contact.

If interviewed by several people, identify the decision maker. The others will glance at the decision maker after they are done talking. It is almost an uncontrolled gesture looking for approval. It might be a very small glance.

Under stress people instinctively tend to protect their main artery. In modern society it is manifested by touching their tie or playing with a necklace. To the interviewer this mean stress.

The interviewer may reveal a need for more information by putting an object in the mouth such as a pen or the tip of the eye glasses.

If the interviewer puts his fingers together (pyramid-like), this may indicate an attempt to “connect the dots”. This is a good sign.

Another good sign is when the interviewer is rubbing his hands together. This gesture indicates satisfaction.

Listen with your eyes 

The eyes are often called: “The windows of the soul”, as they can send many different non-verbal signals.

Eye contact often increases significantly when listening, and especially when  paying close attention to what the other person is saying.

Less eye contact is used when talking, particularly by people who are visual thinkers, they stare into the distance or upwards as they ‘see’ what they are talking about.

When a person makes very little eye contact, they may be feeling insecure. They may also be lying and not want to be detected; it also could be as a result of Coulter behavior.

Why cards?

With the Body Language Cards you will master body language, you will be able to know what others feel and think on the spot.

Mastering the secrets of the body language might be complicated. Body language is a visual mode of communication – you cannot learn it just from reading – you need to see it. The Body Language Cards do just that; they flood your consciousness with the visual gestures and connect it to its meaning so you can retain the information and use it in real-time situations.

Most important: It works!!!

The Body Language Cards are used as an integral part of professional body language courses; a method   used in the training of executives, sales forces and professional security personnel and in colleges to enhance students presentation, leadership and interview skills.

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Meet Gill Shermeister – One of the Co-Authors of the Body Language Cards

Trained as a zoologist, Gill became fascinated by the similarities of basic mammalian behaviors to those of humans and  spent the last 18 years investigating this field.  He is a key-note speaker in well-known corporates and organizations on non-verbal communication, leadership, presentation and public speaking as well as training executives, negotiators and politicians.

Gill shares his professional secrets in this unique tool to master the secrets of Body Language.

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