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How and Why Do We Instinctively Protect our Main Artery with Our Hands?

July 9, 2012

A part of the human being remains to be an instinctive drive. Even in our contemporary world of new technologies that take us far from our original environments, there are certain behaviors which remain to be instinctive and universal indicators; this is particularly true in the realm of non-verbal communication.

One of those instinctive indicators is protecting the main artery, and in general the neck region. Under the threat of a predator, any animal will attempt to make it small and protect its neck area, particularly the main artery. Many animals first lunge for the neck, as this usually deals a fatal blow to their prey, thus animals have evolved to first protect their necks. This indicator is alive and well within ourselves too, it is exemplified in non-verbal communication when someone feels “under attack”. In other words, they are being defensive.

What are the most common ways we attempt to protect our main arteries, and what exactly do they mean?

  • Tugging on your collar. It is a signal for “more air” and shows dissatisfaction.
  • Massaging or Pinching the throat. This indicates difficulty accepting the message or terms of agreement.
  • Hiding the main artery behind your wrist. When they support their head by holding the side of their chin with their hands, their wrists cover the main artery. This indicator is twofold: the wrist is pointed away from the person (which may indicate defensiveness) as well as it protects the main artery.
  • Playing with a necklace or searching for an imaginary one. A person is uncertain, insecure, or feels a certain tension.

In general, protecting the neck/main artery region signals defensiveness. Depending upon the context, you may understand what exactly is causing the defensive posture. These are but four ways of protecting the main artery, and once you begin looking for this defensive gesture, the many other ways will bring themselves forward.

As for your own body language, it is a matter of changing habits to correct this gesture in your own non-verbal communication. If you do not want to make it seem as though you are being defensive, then it is best to refrain from this gesture. However, if you are actively attempting to signal to someone who you’re uncomfortable with a message or situation, then you may utilize it to your advantage.

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The Eyes Can Tell You A Lot

March 3, 2012

People are much more of an open book than they are aware of. Body language can tell a great deal about what is going on inside ones thoughts. One of the most easily observed, yet widely unnoticed aspects of body language is eye movement. Our eye movements are often a reflection of what type of mental processes we are engaged in.

The following illustration depicts the major types of eye movements and their significance.

If you are chatting with someone and they keep looking to their right, laterally or upward, they are likely engaged in imagination or fabrication.

If they look to their left, laterally or upward, they are likely engaged in recall of an actual experience from their memory.

Looking downward generally signifies internal dialog. Eyes down and left signifies internal auditory dialog.

Eyes down and to the right signifies internal kinesthetic dialog.

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The information in this field is organized mostly in books, which is amazing taking into consideration the fact that it’s a visual mode of communication, and the crucial thing is to have the visual memory of the movement in mind when one encounters the relevant gesture.

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Gender Differences in Body Language

February 4, 2012

Often we are asked if there are gender differences in body language. In the past 20-30 years, the conventional perception was that  in general, women are more communicative than men, both literally and with their body language. Today, the gap is blurry.

Women and men express the same body language positions, gestures and facial expressions, that’s why it’s called body language. It’s a matter of communication, if there were too many differences we couldn’t have called it “language”.

It is very crucial to look at a cluster of gestures pointing at the same direction and not only at one gesture before coming to any conclusion, it’s as if we are listening to one word out of a whole sentence and assume we understand it.

Even today, in modern life, there are slight gender differences in the extent and duration of gestures, yet the distinction requires more training and experience than learning basic body language.

Examples of a slight gender differences in extent or duration of a particular gesture:

1.   Everyone stroke their hair with their fingers  – in women, the duration is slightly longer.

2.  Men and women will both bite their lower lip in times of stress, lick their lips when sensing dry mouth or  attraction, in women though it’s more observable because it is a bit more frequent and sustained.

 3.  Women are capable of tilting their head longer than men while listening to others, perhaps because they concentrate more on the verbal communication’s details which creates the whole picture. You can see an example of this situation when two men sit at a restaurant table, they usually will sit facing each other.  Women, will often sit side by side.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    

4.   Women and men blink frequently when they are interested in the conversation. With women it’s just more obvious and noticeable to the eye of the observer. It could be because of their makeup.

5.   Men and women tend to surround themselves with little things such as phone, keys, etc. Men do it more to the front to mark frontal boundaries while women tend to put things on their side, perhaps to “protect against harassment,”

The most noticeable differences in signals are seen in dating:

In men: the signals are simplistic – legs apart, more hair stroking, they stare longer at the woman, they play more with objects, more self-touch (more  means more than usual, not more than women), hands tucked in belt toward the pelvis, opening a shirt button, and hands in pocket.

In women: Body language is far richer – lower the shirt sleeve,  play longer with their hair, emphasize thighs movements, more licking lips, more  legs crossing exchange, they will remove their feet from shoe, more stretching to enhance their chest, keep legs apart.

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